The much anticipated book on personality and parenting from co-authors Margaret Loftus, Tracy Tresidder and Jacqui Pollock.

Available now direct from the authors and selected bookstores.

Every parent is fascinated by the personalities of their children, and in particular the ways in which children of the same parents can vary so much. Parents have had this fascination for centuries. For generations, we have wondered about the relative influences of ‘nature’ and ‘nurture’: how much are our kids ‘born that way’ and what effect does parenting/birth order/environment/schooling have on their developing personalities?

Unfortunately this interest in our children’s personalities doesn’t always extend to ourselves – in particular to ourselves as parents. Many parents have very little understanding of their own personality. They have little awareness of their habitual behaviours and the way these behaviours affect others, especially their children.

We should.

The truth is that nature and nurture both contribute significantly to our children’s personalities – the research is very clear on this.

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  • This book gifts us with a practical, useful, and groundbreaking work for parents and adults in their relationship with children. You will benefit from this book whether you are new or experienced with the Enneagram.
    — David Daniels, MD, Clinical Professor Emeritus Stanford Medical School and Enneagram pioneer.
  • I am so often asked by parents for advice in raising their children, or how to handle a very different Enneagram style in their child. I have honestly never read a book that gets right to these points so cleverly, creatively, and 'rightly'. And the right part is very important to an incorrigible ONE like me! This book is really excellent in exactly what it sets out to do.
    — Fr.Richard Rohr, O.F.M. Center for Action and Contemplation, Albuquerque, New Mexico
  • The most important job in the world, being a parent, is the one that requires no license, no training, and does not end after 18 years. This book unlocks the key to this high-stress job and will be widely read by parents and grandparents everywhere.
    — Ginger Lapid-Bogda, PhD, author, Bringing Out the Best in Everyone You Coach
  • Every parent needs to run and get this book! It includes “Parenting Strategies for Growth” - which is an easy way to apply the learning to connect and stay connected with our children, teens and young adults.
    — Diana Sterling, author, The Parent as Coach Approach